Four Secrets to a Successful Western-Ukrainian Relationship

Dear friends,

Building a strong relationship takes lots of love and patience, even if both people are from the same culture. If you are both from different cultures, you will need to understand each other’s background in order to get along. I believe many people become frustrated and end the relationship because they feel that the cultural barrier is too high to overcome. This simply is not true, so I have put together some tips to make your cross-cultural experience easier and more rewarding.

Secret #1: Learn about the country, culture, mentality and traditions of your partner

First of all, I believe that you need to educate yourself about your partner’s country. You can search online and find many articles about Ukrainian history and culture. Depending on where you live, there may be a Ukrainian church or community center nearby that you can visit. I believe that many Ukrainian communities hold festivals during certain times of the year, and this is a great chance for you to experience the food and culture firsthand.

Secret #2: Learn the language of your foreign wife in order to understand her thoughts and soul

I feel that you also need to realize that there will be a language barrier to overcome. Many Ukrainians speak English, but they may not be completely fluent. I personally think it would be immensely helpful for westerners to learn some Ukrainian or Russian (every Ukrainian woman can speak and understand Russian).

You can find free programs online that will help you learn the Ukrainian and Russian language and alphabet, and this may help to bridge the communication gap.

Learn Russian online:

http://www.russianlessons.net/ (for free)
http://learningrussian.net/ (for free)
http://russianonweb.com/

Learn Ukrainian online:

http://www.ukma.kiev.ua/ua/pub/websites/ufl/index.htm (a free online course for beginners)
http://www.transparent.com/learn-ukrainian/
http://www.funkyukrainian.com/
Secret #3: Accept the culture of your partner

You also need to be aware of what is considered socially acceptable between your two cultures. For example, Ukrainians are typically not very demonstrative in public, and they usually reserve displays of affection for inside the home. I know that Ukrainians may seem reserved at first, but it is part of their nature to slowly ease into any relationship.

So, don’t be offended if your attempts at being affectionate are not reciprocated right away. I feel that both people need to see themselves as individuals and place their own set of personal values higher than those of their respective cultures. This is a big step in breaking down cultural barriers.

Secret # 4: Respect, understanding and love

I personally believe that one of the most important factors in any relationship is respect for each other. When you respect your partner as an individual, you will be able to appreciate and embrace your cultural differences.

Of course, both of you will also need to have a lot of patience with one another as you work through your differences together. I believe that if you follow these suggestions and truly attempt to understand each other, you will be able to create a great future together.

Good luck!

Ukrainian online dating is not a funny game

Dear friends,

Many people think that online dating is a nice opportunity to act like a completely another person (for example, a man is a quiet and inactive office worker in real life, but a self-confident macho online). From my experience as a dating blogger, I have mentioned that some Western men do not understand that their behavior can hurt women from Ukraine. They guess if they do not know women in person, just through a dating site they are allowed to do everything they want. They forget that the Ukrainian women have feelings and hope to find a partner for life.

I have read tons of sad stories about how the women from Ukraine had been very hurt by Western men. I get a lot of mails from Western men that tell me that they have been scammed, hurt and disappointed by Ukrainian women. This is a sad fact that some Ukrainian women play with men’s feelings, emotions and trust. Some men cannot trust Russian and Ukrainian brides after their negative experiences with International online dating. And this is, in my opinion, just awful.

On the other hand, I got a few messages from my readers in which they tell me their stories. Sad stories… Without even having realized it, they’d hurt and disappointed women from Ukraine. The men gave them hope, and then simply disappeared from the women’s lives. I read the stories that the men have a long distance relationship for several years, become engaged and plan a life together. What I say now is just my assumption. I do not know these girls personally, but as a woman I can imagine how they feel. It hurts…

If I would blog in Russian I would advise Ukrainian girls: stop thinking that Ukrainian online dating is a funny game! Think about the feelings of others! Stop hurting the feelings of the men who write to you with hope to find someone special abroad! But as you know, I offer dating advice for Western men.

Therefore, I want to give you a little piece of Ukrainian online dating advice. You hurt a woman and she cannot forgive you, but you decide to do everything in order to save your relationship.

My advice is before you do something, ask yourself honestly: do you really love this woman? Are you ready to support this woman the whole life and provide for her wellbeing? If your answer is “Yes, I am”, you have to make a lot of effort to win her faith in you back. Her doubts are big…

But if she still loves you, she will find strength to forgive you. If she does not want to talk to you, write her a letter about your feelings, about your love. Tell her that if she gives you a second chance, you can show her your love. You can prove that you are the man who takes care of his family, supports his wife and provides for her. Anybody can make mistakes. Nobody is perfect. If she has any feelings for you, she should give your love a chance.

My last advice: do not play with her trust. It is very easy to break it and very difficult to win it again.

Let’s talk about Ukrainian dating clichés

Dear friends,

Let’s talk about International (rather Ukrainian) dating clichés today. Recently, I have received a mail from one of my readers who accused me that I provide/give false information about Ukrainian women, namely: we are beautiful, feminine, tender and family-oriented.

In fact, in his opinion, the truth about Ukrainian women for marriage is completely the opposite. He wrote me that us, Ukrainian ladies, are lazy and we expect that the man does everything in a relationship. In addition, the reader told me that he had corresponded with over 100 women from the Ukraine, and all the women were the same, namely: they gave off an impression of being lazy, did not respond to him and they showed no interest in developing the communication with the man. He wrote me that (all) Ukrainian women are not usually interested in putting any work or effort into a relationship.

Therefore, I decided to write an article about generalizations and clichés in the International online dating. “Blonde hair, red lips, and a mini skirt” & “an ideal wife, mother and homemaker”- these are the standard images of Russian and Ukrainian women in the West. As a result, thousands of Western men start looking for the ideal woman from Ukraine and Russia each year. Unfortunately, many men become disappointed after a while because they understand some of the Ukrainian dating clichés just do not correspond to reality.

Let’s see what the problem is. As said above, the reader had communicated with over 100 Ukrainian brides through different online dating services – without any success. Now, he thinks that all Ukrainian women are not able to start a happy intercultural relationship with a Western man.

In the first place I have to say that much more than merely 100 single women for marriage live in Ukraine. For that reason, it is simply wrong to think that all Ukrainian women are bad and lazy. I would like to ask you, guys, if you think that all Ukrainian women are the same. Every woman in Ukraine has the same personality? Are all Western men the same? Are all American men the same? I do not think so.

We are making a big mistake here: we all love to make generalizations about everything in this life. We assume that “All German men are cold”, “All American men are superficial”, “All Ukrainian and Russian women are just after my money”, or “All Thai women unquestionably obey the man”. But is that really true? I don’t think so. Western men should understand that Ukrainian women can be brunettes or blondes, good or bad, family- or career-oriented, lazy or hard-working. We Ukrainian women are just different (exactly like yourselves).

Typical woman from Ukraine?
Secondly, it is a known fact that if we make a mistake or have no success in what we do, we always tend to blame others. We cannot see our own mistakes and won’t take criticism from others. The reader wrote me that there is no doubt for him that Ukrainian women are responsible for the fact that he did not find a match in Ukraine. I am rather sure that the man thinks he did everything perfectly, and, of course, the women from Ukraine did everything wrong.

The reasons why over 100 Ukrainian women with whom the man had communicated did not show any interest can be the following:

Boring messages that lack true interest and emotions
Too big age difference (I do not recommend you to look for women who are 20 years younger than you)
Strange behavior of the men (e.g. questions about sex, intimacy, clothing size, etc.)
Misconceptions about the Ukrainian online dating (some Western men think, “I am a Western man and do not need to make any effort to win the heart of a Ukrainian woman. She must be happy if I send a message to her”).
You must understand that Ukrainian women are considered to be one of the most beautiful and desirable women in the world. We can choose, as well. We have requirements to males, as well.

In conclusion, I have a question for you, guys. Why are there so many happy Ukrainian-Western couples in the world if all Ukrainian women for marriage seem to be bad? Of course, there is also the possibility that the Ukrainian-Western marriage will not work. But as you know, not every American (Western) relationship works, either.

I recommend you, dear Gentlemen, not to make generalizations about Ukrainian women and just be adequate with your purposes and desires.

Good luck!

Western men’s opinions: Why not to date American women

Dear friends,

My regular reader Hilton has explained a few times already why he does not want to date an American woman. I decided to do a little online analysis and find Western men’s opinions on “Why don’t they want to date American women” through different Russian and Ukrainian women forums.

Here is Hilton’s opinion on why not to date American ladies:

I’ve dated 23 different women in my life and none, NOT ONE SINGLE AMERICAN WOMEN, was able to convince me as to why marrying any of them would be any better than me staying single!

I don’t hate american women but I understand that the american culture, being that I’m a native hawaiian, don’t match my thought process and outlook on life. I’m reserved and somewhat conservative. I found that the outlook on life that Ukrainian women have match how I think and I believe that you have to search for a woman, from a country, that matches how you look at life. Being an american with another american isn’t good enough these days. Information moves too quickly and wrong information moves even quicker. So, you have to find what matches your outlook on life; even if that means looking in another country to do so!

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I would correctly say that 95%, at minimum, of ALL american women, who are 18 years of age and older, will put there career ahead of there relationships with there boyfriends/husband simply because of the femenistic culture that has brainwashed american women. American men know that American women have overpriced themselves in the market and now you have female politicians(american female politicians) making laws that makes it harder for american men to find wives outside of the United States….

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We all know why American guys want to find a woman from Ukraine or Russia, namely: we are feminine, family-oriented and pretty. We all know why Russian and Ukrainian women dream to find a match abroad, namely: most Russian and Ukrainian men drink too much, they are violent, they don’t respect their woman, they don’t respect family values…

I am wondering if American ladies are not able and do not want to give their men the basic things like care, attention, affection, respect and patience in the relationship and marriage. Is that really true? In my opinion, the most common reason (that I’ve heard of) why American men want to find a Ukrainian or Russian woman is that American women (their women) are extremely emancipated and career oriented.

I found some interesting opinions of the Western men that I would like to present in the today’s article:

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And why don’t you want to date an American woman, dear readers?

A comprehensive cost analysis of Ukrainian and Russian dating

Dear friends,

Many Western men dream to meet a special woman from the Ukraine or Russia and do not think about the possible costs that may later seem like just huge. From experiences of Western men looking for a woman from Ukraine, approximate average cost of Ukrainian and Russian adventure: $10,000-$15,000.

As you see, the cost of Ukrainian and Russian dating to some may be very expensive, but to others a great bargain. Depending on the country, in which you live. The cost to date and possibly win the heart of a respectable lady could be twice that of a woman from a foreign country.

The idea of dating another woman from a different country is rooted far back in history. Often the courtship would start with mail or other means of correspondence.

Mostly men from the United States seem to be the highest ranking customers for Ukrainian and Russian women for marriage. In my opinion, this may be because U.S. women are so hard to please and are used to the better things in life.

Women from Ukraine, Russia, the Philippines and Thailand do not have the lavish lifestyle that North American women take for granted. Such as going to a movie or the corner store when she wants to or to even take a job if she would like. Which does make a foreign bride more appreciative of their spouse and the new freedoms she might experience by being in a new country.

The cost to date a Ukrainian and Russian woman for marriage is decided by a great many things such as postage, phone calls, air fair, translation cost as well as dinner and a movie. Other costs are related to the Ukrainian dating services such as purchasing an online service membership, purchasing their catalog of women and the purchase of a woman’s address. These cost can also be related to the country that you live and the distance that you may be from your prospective bride.

The approximate prices of the Ukrainian dating process are listed below:

Purchasing the address the of the Ukrainian and Russian women: $10-$15 for each address
Sending of letters will cost: $5 per letter
Translation of phone call: $6 for every minute
Purchasing the catalogue of Ukrainian and Russian women: $120
Online dating service membership: $80-$650
Airfare: $500-$1000 and even more at times, depending on the distance of the country you are moving to.
Ukrainian Romance tour: $3,500-$7,500, it includes accommodation and other expenses.
The VISA cost of Ukrainian and Russian women for marriage come within a reasonable $450
These cost can add up quickly, but the opportunity to find your true love is well worth it. There are several different sites on-line like LoveMe.com, ElenasModels.com, A Pretty Woman.com or AnastasiaDate.com that offer International dating services. They offer an opportunity to select and to get to know your Ukrainian woman of interest. Which can help you make that final decision of meeting her or not.

As you know, Ukrainian and Russian women are very pleasant and often seem much easier pleased than most women from other countries. This may be related to the way they were brought up by their family and their traditions. Or by the social and economic situations of the country they lived in. The thought of a bride from another culture has always been intriguing to most men and can be a fantastic learning experience for a couple.

In conclusion, I should mention that not matter what part of the world you live in or where you decide to look for a special woman for life. The cost is not an issue when it comes to your happiness it should be a matter of personal preference to your satisfaction.

Romance Tours from A Foreign Affair as an alternative to dating sites

Dear friends,

This is no secret that online dating can take an eternity. A man searches for a special Ukrainian woman on a dating site and writes a message to her. If you are lucky, you get a response from the woman. Then the “communication” phase begins… From my personal experience, I can say you that the online communication takes a few months until you meet in person. Romance tours offers a great chance to meet a woman of your dreams more quickly.

Tofay, I wooul like to tell you about one of the most famous and professional romance tour operators, namely: A Foreign Affair (LoveMe.com).

Foreign Affairs offers the choice way for anyone to meet thousands of beautiful foreign women. This tour company has been introducing men with exotic ladies for nearly two decades. Clients are sure to find the wife of their dreams when they rely on the services of Foreign Affairs. Tours are conducted around the world. Men can choose any country they want to visit. Ukraine and Russia are some of the most popular destinations. These countries are known for their blonde beauties that are dying to meet a Western man. South American countries are also included and offer men a chance to spend some time with exotic Latin ladies.

Choosing the proper way to meet foreign women can minimize problems. With Foreign Affairs, men are sure to meet many women who are eligible. All the women are carefully screened to ensure compatibility. Men are often concerned about their safety and the possibility of getting schemed by women in foreign countries. There are no needs to worry about this issue with Foreign Affairs.

This company has earned its reputation and has been creating successful matches since 1995. All the women who take part in the tours and dates are fully screened prior to being accepted. This assures men will find women who are serious about finding a husband. The company also has offices in all the major cities where tours are conducted. Foreign Affairs is tuned in to the local communities and provides a valuable service to the women in host countries as well as to men.

Foreign brides are exotic, and women are dying to meet the Western man of their dreams. Many ladies are from small towns. Finding an eligible bachelor in these towns is difficult and often impossible. Beautiful women do not have much chance of leaving their homes, and they are often stuck working in jobs that are low paying, even when they have a college degree. Money is tight, and travel is often difficult. For this reason, women are turning to the opportunities that are found with Foreign Affairs. They can be introduced to eligible bachelors who can offer them much more than they will ever find in their home countries.

Taking advantage of a variety of tours is the best way for men to meet exciting exotic women from around the world. Tours are held in Costa Rica, Asia, Peru, Russia and the Ukraine. These countries are known for their beautiful ladies. Many women speak English fluently and have studied the language during their college careers. Interpreters are also provided during the tour, but they are often unnecessary.

Choosing to take a romance tour offers great chances for men to enjoy and meet beautiful ladies. Foreign Affairs offers comprehensive packages that include airfare, lodging and socials. The socials are one of the best parts of the entire tour. These events feature thousandsd of ladies that have been handpicked by the various clients.

There are many more women than men in attendance, and they are all anxious to meet Western guys. Clients are encouraged to get to know as many women as possible, because there is a good chance that one of these ladies will become a great wife. The women are pre-screened before attending, and they are chosen by the men who take part in the tour. If there is a lady that seems interesting, you can ask to have her invited to the social.

Personal one on one introductions are another way that men can meet the lady of their dreams. Enrolling in the service will offer men a chance to browse through thousands of women from around the world. All these ladies are looking for a foreign husband. As a client of Foreign Affairs, you are offered a chance to get to know these ladies better. Many men begin chatting with women on the Internet and use instant messaging and video calls to get to know women before they travel to a foreign country. This is just another of the ways that men can meet a host of potential brides from the comforts of their home.

Advice and support are also offered by Foreign Affairs. This company does more than just help men meet the woman of their dreams. Guidance is offered to help men secure the necessary travel permits to enable their wives to move home with them. There is a host of red tape that is cut through with ease by the Foreign Affairs staff. Their employees know how to proceed and can help clients follow through with the entire process.

Finding an exotic wife is best done with a comprehensive dating service like Foreign Affairs. This company is the original foreign dating service and offers unrivalled ways for guys to meet the foreign woman of their choice. Tours are held in the greatest countries around the world, and there are thousands of women waiting to meet you.

Peter asks – Natalya answers

Dear Readers,

Peter, one of my readers, has left a comment on a few days ago. In his commentary, he has asked a few important questions about Ukrainian women and dating. I answered him. In my opinion, this information can also be useful for other men, that’s why I have decided to publish the whole story on my blog today. I hope that my Ukraine dating advice to Peter can help you, too.

Peter asks:

Enjoyed your piece on the differences between Russian/Ukrainian women and Thai women. My only experience has been with American and Colombian women.

Questions:
What are the differences between Russian and Ukrainian women?

What do you consider an acceptable age difference between an older American man and a younger Russian or Ukrainian woman?

Lastly, I’ve heard that visiting the host country, as opposed, for example, letter writing, is the only way to meet and marry a Russian or Ukrainian woman.

If so, do you recommend an agency like A Foreign Affair or Anastasia or just meet them online and go there?

Thanks.

Peter

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Natalia answers:

Hello Peter,

thank you for your comment. Sorry that I answer you so late, I was sick
But now I feel better and can answer your questions.

Question 1: What are the differences between Russian and Ukrainian women?

Answer: There is no great difference between Russian and Ukrainian women. The cultures and mentalities are very similar. The religion is the same (Orthodox), the appearance is also the same (you can see immediately that Russian and Ukrainian women are of Slavic origin).

I would say that there is a slight difference in temperament and family roles. Russian women are a little quieter, Ukrainian women are more emotional and play the first violin in their families. Russian and Ukrainian women are very family oriented – they are definitely the same in this point of view.

Question 2. What do you consider an acceptable age difference between an older American man and a younger Russian or Ukrainian woman?

Answer: For me personally, an acceptable age difference between an older (American, English, Deutsch, French, etc. ..) man and a younger Russian or Ukrainian woman is max. 10 years.

Although, as I said before, this question is also very personal. Everyone should decide for themselves. I know a couple in Germany (she is Russian, her husband is German) and 20 years lie between them. But they are very happy together and have two kids.

Question 3: Lastly, I’ve heard that visiting the host country, as opposed, for example, letter writing, is the only way to meet and marry a Russian or Ukrainian woman. If so, do you recommend an agency like A Foreign Affair or Anastasia or just meet them online and go there?

Answer: Unfortunately, the distance between the U.S. and Russia / Ukraine is very big and it’s pretty difficult and expensive to go every month to Ukraine to meet in person women there for marriage. The only reasonable possibility to meet women is Ukraine online dating services like LoveMe.com, UkraineDate.com and AnastasiaDate. You can, of course, try to find Ukrainian and Russian women in America. There are many Ukrainian women who have emigrated to America.

Dear friends,
if you have any questions about Ukraine women and dating, please don’t hesitate to contact me (like Peter did )

@Peter: I hope I could help you with my piece of Ukraine dating advice. If you need more information, just ask me!